As I have grown older and now am a young adult, one thing has seemed to remain constant: I am single. Because of this, I can tell you that there are few questions that can make a single person feel more uneasy than to ask, “Do you have the gift of singleness?” This is not a question that many singles prefer to hear. Nevertheless, that is a question asked by people. This inquiry made runs parallel to the issue of biblical singleness. In other words, what does the Bible say in regards to singleness? We shall discuss this issue of biblical singleness briefly throughout the remainder of this post.
Now, before we actually dive into what biblical singleness is, it is imperative to point out what it is not. God’s Word says certain things, yet, we can twist and turn things around and say God said something when He never did. So it is with this topic. There are a number of fallacies that appear when we try to describe what biblical singleness is. To be clear, it is not a supernatural empowerment that allows a person to be free of sexual temptation and focus solely on the Lord. We are all fallen and will struggle with sexual temptation. After all, Jesus faced every temptation we do and was without sin (Hebrews 4:15). Biblical singleness is also not a subjective feeling. Feelings change constantly and someone who may be satisfied being single one day may be desiring to be married the next day. One last fallacy in regards to biblical singleness is that it is not a higher gift than the gift of marriage. Singleness and marriage are equal gifts from God.
With clarity provided on what biblical singleness is not, let us concisely see what it is. In doing so, we will look at 1 Corinthians 7:28-35. This passage deals with the unmarried and the widowed. It is here where Paul brings up this issue of singleness, one who is unmarried. You can see right away in verse 28, Paul states that those who marry are not sinning. Rather, God was the one who made Eve for Adam, and marriage is a gift from God. However, singleness is also an equal gift from God. Paul, being single himself, speaks light on this topic. Verse 32 through verse 35 is where Paul briefly lays out what biblical singleness is. It is to “secure your undivided devotion to the Lord”. See, the gift of singleness is not a gift given to minimize the reality of temptation, but rather it is given to please the Lord. To be single allows that person a great devotion to serve the Lord that a married person does not have the opportunity to do. To serve the Lord with that devotion is to glorify Him just as we are called to do (1 Corinthians 10:31). This is just a taste of what biblical singleness is.
In conclusion, I would just like to say that this is a topic have just begun studying and am no expert on it. Yet, I hope this has been an encouragement to you and has taught you something. Remember this: whether you are married or are single, we are to glorify God!